Challenges to Relationships
You started your relationship, partnership or marriage with the expectation of leading a happy, loving and satisfying life together. Sharing interests, intimacy and connection.
Feeling loved, acknowledged and valued, there was contentment and security. It was meant to be happily ever after. Then over time things changed, often a series of small things and suddenly there is a gulf between you. What happened, you can’t relate to each other!?
Life events can all have an significant impact on a couples relationship. Being too busy for each other, external demands, tiredness, loss of libido, redundancy, stress at work, financial difficulties, moving home, the list is endless. Not being able to conceive, children being born, children living at home or leaving home are also huge disruptions in couples lives.
Relationships continue to evolve and develop over time. Reflecting how all individuals themselves grow. Within the relationship couples face difficulties with negotiations, conflicts, differences of opinion and unmet needs.
Relationships aren’t static. They change according to nature of both individuals and people don’t necessarily develop at the same rate. Leading on occasions to insecurity, unfulfilment and lack of rapport.
As individuals change then one or both partners may feel dissatisfied with the other person. One morning you wake up and wonder do you love each other any more. Do you even love yourself still?
Time for Change
As you get older you may no longer recognise your partner or yourself. Somewhere the relationship has taken a wrong turn and one or both of you didn’t keep up.
This can be a period of uncertainty, confusion and anxiety. It can feel really lonely. Maybe its time for you to do something different and try something new.
That something is to engage in couples counselling seek to form a new relationship that is stronger than it was before.
Discover new things about you and your partner. Find what you have been missing and how to put it back into the relationship.